I found her wedding ring in the bottom drawer of my bedside locker, underneath a packet of old batteries, two bus tickets, and a receipt from a café in Rathmines where we used to sit on wet Sundays pretending we were the kind of people who read the whole paper. It was a small gold band, warmer in colour than I remembered, with a nick on one side from the time she clapped too hard at a gig on Wexford Street and hit it against the edge of a table.
By then, Niamh had been gone from the flat for nearly eight months. Not gone in the dramatic way people imagine when a marriage ends. There were no smashed plates, no suitcase thrown onto the path, no neighbours peering through curtains. She left on a Tuesday morning after making tea for both of us. She said, “I can’t keep feeling lonely beside you.” Then she took two bags, kissed the dog on the head, and got the 14 bus toward town.
I told myself a clean version of the story after that. I told friends in Dublin that we had grown apart. I told my mother it was mutual. I told the lads in Grogan’s that we were “figuring things out,” which is what men say when they do not want anyone to ask where they sleep at night inside their own head.
The truth was less tidy. I had become difficult to love. Not cruel, not unfaithful, not any of the things that make people nod and say, “Well, there you go.” I was just absent. After my father died, I turned myself into a locked room. Niamh knocked for a year. She brought me for walks along the Grand Canal. She booked a weekend in Howth. She left little notes in my lunch when I started a new job near Pearse Street. I accepted all of it like a man accepting post meant for someone else.
When she left, I noticed everything too late. The quiet at dinner. The space where her runners used to be by the door. The way the flat in Portobello still smelled faintly of her shampoo for weeks, as if the walls were kinder than I had been. But I did not ring her. Pride, shame, grief — they all wore the same coat on me.
Then I found the ring.
At first I thought she had left it behind by accident. Then I remembered the night she took it off. We had been arguing about nothing and everything. I said something cold, something about how maybe we had rushed into marriage. She went very still, removed the ring, and placed it on the locker. “If you mean that,” she said, “say it properly.” I didn’t. I walked into the kitchen and stood there listening to the fridge hum like it had something important to contribute.
The next morning the ring was gone, and so was the conversation. I assumed she had put it back on. Later, after she moved out, I assumed she had kept it. Finding it there, hidden in my drawer, felt like discovering a sentence she had started but never finished. She hadn’t thrown it away. She hadn’t taken it with her either. She had left it with me, maybe as a question, maybe as evidence.
I carried it in my pocket for three days. I brought it to work, to the shop, even on a walk through St Stephen’s Green during lunch. Every time my fingers touched it, I felt the weight of all the small chances I had wasted. Love, I realised, is not usually lost in one great collapse. It leaks out through the places you stop paying attention.
On the fourth evening, I text
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